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3 Secrets to Being Confident

Posted on 19 Oct 2009 | Author Stefanie | Comments No comments | Tags

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Found this great article online, thought I would share it with you.

3 Secrets to Being Confident

We’ve heard it (and said it) a million times: confidence is sexy. But how do you deal when you’re lacking in that department? We asked members of Marie Claire Ask & Answer — Marie Claire ‘s online Q&A community for dating, sex, and relationship advice — for their secrets to appearing confident and sexy. “This is one of those areas where you start out faking it, but as you go along, you feel more capable of handling situations, and hence become more confident,” Answerology member logash365 says.   How to fake it until you make it:

Secret #1: Stand Up Straight. Slouching has never done anyone’s appearance any favors, so before you can speak and flirt with confidence, you need to look the part. Your mother was right. Now, shoulders back and chin up! And, silver75 adds, “Smile and look people in their eyes when you talk to them.”

Secret #2: Speak Softy. “Don’t raise your voice,” says logash365 . “A soft, but firm voice will give the impression that you are in control of yourself and the situation.” You don’t have to be the loudest person in the room to come across as self-assured. Get them to lean in close instead.

Secret #3: Be Positive. If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all — resist the urge to complain in order to fill an awkward silence. “Do not go on and on about how much you have to do, how little time there is, etc.,” says logash365 . That attitude “indicates that you are struggling to maintain control.” Don’t have much to say? Ask questions until the frog in your throat goes on its way.  It’s much more attractive to be a good listener than to be the rain on everyone’s parade.

It’s good advice!

All the best


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